ADHD Couples Therapy in San Francisco
Specialized Online Support for High-Achieving Couples
When one or both partners are ADHD, your relationship brings together different neurotypes that can create the most vibrant, creative, and passionate partnerships. As a specialized couples therapist serving San Francisco and beyond through secure online sessions, I understand how beautiful and complex neurodivergent relationships can be, and how the right support can help you thrive together by honoring both your neurotypes.
My ADHD couples therapy approach celebrates neurodivergent love while helping partners build bridges of understanding between different ways of experiencing the world. Together, we create space for authentic connection that honors ADHD brains alongside neurotypical ones.
Celebrating Neurodivergent Relationships with Specialized Support
ADHD couples bring unique gifts to their relationships, intense emotional connections, creativity, spontaneity, and passionate love. When partners understand and accommodate each other's neurotypes, these relationships flourish in extraordinary ways. My approach to ADHD couples therapy focuses on building this mutual understanding and creating systems that allow both partners to shine.
Through my specialized practice, ADHD couples learn to celebrate neurological differences rather than viewing them as obstacles. This shift from trying to change ADHD brains to understanding and accommodating different neurotypes creates space for genuine emotional connection and mutual appreciation. Rather than feeling like there's something wrong, partners develop collaborative approaches that honor both their individual neurotypes and their shared love.
My therapeutic approach recognizes that neurodivergent relationships can be incredibly fulfilling when partners have the right tools for communication and understanding. From different communication styles and emotional intensities to various approaches to time and organization, these differences can become relationship strengths when properly understood and accommodated.
Why Neurodivergent Couples Benefit from Specialized Understanding
Traditional couples therapy often misunderstands neurodivergent relationships, applying neurotypical frameworks that don't account for how ADHD brains naturally function. Many couples therapists lack the specialized knowledge necessary to appreciate how ADHD traits enhance relationships and how to build on these natural strengths while creating accommodation for different neurotypes.
Neurodivergent relationships have unique dynamics that require specific understanding. ADHD partners may experience emotional intensity, process time differently, and approach organization in non-traditional ways, while neurotypical partners may need education about neurodivergent ways of being. These differences in neurotype can create beautiful compatibility when partners understand how to work with rather than against their natural brain differences.
Different executive functioning styles commonly associated with ADHD can affect approaches to household organization and planning. When neurotypical partners try to impose their organizational systems without understanding ADHD brains, both partners can become frustrated. ADHD couples therapy helps partners appreciate different approaches to life management and create hybrid systems that work for both neurotypes.
Emotional intensity can be one of the most beautiful aspects of neurodivergent relationships. The deep emotional connections and passionate responses that ADHD brains often experience can create incredibly meaningful partnerships. When partners understand that emotional intensity is a neurological gift rather than a problem to solve, they can learn to appreciate and work with these natural responses.
My Neuro-Affirming Approach to ADHD Couples Therapy
My practice specializes exclusively in ADHD couples therapy from a neurodiversity-affirming perspective. I celebrate ADHD brains while helping couples build understanding between different neurotypes. My approach integrates evidence-based therapeutic modalities specifically chosen for their compatibility with neurodivergent ways of being.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy helps ADHD couples understand their internal experiences and access their authentic selves. This approach is particularly valuable for helping partners appreciate the different "parts" that make up their personalities and neurotypes. Partners learn to communicate from their wise, connected selves while honoring their natural brain differences.
Brainspotting can address any accumulated stress from misunderstanding or lack of accommodation. When couples are ADHD and have experienced years of trying to fit neurotypical expectations, healing these experiences allows them to return to authentic connection that honors their true neurotypes.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) provides a direct, strength-based approach that celebrates what works well in neurodivergent relationships. This modality helps partners build on their natural connection while developing accommodation strategies that honor both neurotypes.
Deep Healing Couples Intensives offer concentrated therapeutic work that allows for deep exploration of neurotype compatibility and celebration of neurodivergent love. These intensive sessions provide space for profound understanding and skill-building in a supportive environment.
Areas Where I Support Neurodivergent Couples
Communication Style Differences and Emotional Intensity ADHD brains often communicate with passion and emotional depth, while neurotypical partners may prefer more structured conversation styles. I help couples appreciate these different communication gifts and develop strategies that honor both partners' natural ways of expressing themselves.
Organizational Approaches and Life Management Different executive functioning styles can create beautiful variety in how couples approach household organization and planning. Together, we develop hybrid systems that celebrate both partners' natural strengths while creating accommodation where needed.
Time Perception and Planning Approaches Different time perception styles can bring spontaneity and flexibility to relationships when partners understand how to work with these natural brain differences. I help couples develop planning approaches that honor both neurotypes while creating structure that works for everyone.
Emotional Connection and Intimacy Celebration The emotional intensity and passion that ADHD brains often bring to relationships can create extraordinary intimacy when partners understand how to appreciate and work with these gifts. We explore how to celebrate emotional intensity while creating safety for both partners.
Supporting Neurotypical Partners' Understanding Neurotypical partners often need education about neurodivergent ways of being to fully appreciate their ADHD partner's natural gifts. I help neurotypical partners develop understanding and accommodation skills that allow them to celebrate rather than try to change their partner's neurotype.
What Makes My ADHD Couples Therapy Neuro-Affirming
My approach differs from traditional couples therapy by celebrating neurodiversity rather than pathologizing brain differences. I specialize exclusively in working with neurodivergent couples, which means every intervention honors ADHD brains and builds on natural neurotype strengths rather than trying to change how ADHD partners naturally function.
I understand that high-achieving ADHD couples often have incredible gifts, creativity, passion, innovation, and deep emotional capacity. Professional success often comes naturally to ADHD brains in the right environments, and I help couples create home environments that are equally supportive of neurodivergent thriving.
My neurodiversity-affirming perspective recognizes that accommodation and understanding, not change, are the keys to relationship success. We focus on building bridges between neurotypes while celebrating what makes each partner unique and valuable.
The combination of celebration and practical accommodation appeals to couples who want both emotional validation and concrete tools for thriving together. I don't shy away from addressing accommodation needs while maintaining a foundation of neurodivergent pride and celebration.
Online ADHD Couples Therapy: Accessible and ADHD-Friendly
Based in San Francisco, I provide ADHD couples therapy exclusively through secure online platforms. This format offers several advantages for neurodivergent couples. Online therapy eliminates travel complications and sensory overwhelm while maintaining the intimacy and focus essential for effective therapeutic work.
Many ADHD couples find online therapy more comfortable than traditional office settings. The familiar environment of home can reduce sensory overwhelm and help partners feel more authentic during sessions. Additionally, the ability to have sessions in a comfortable, personalized space can support the emotional regulation that allows for deeper therapeutic work.
Online ADHD couples therapy also provides greater scheduling flexibility, which honors different approaches to time management and planning. Sessions can be scheduled during times that work best for both partners' natural rhythms, supporting rather than fighting against neurotype differences.
Getting Started: Your Journey to Celebrating Neurodivergent Love
My ADHD couples therapy process begins with a complimentary consultation where we discuss your unique neurotype compatibility and relationship gifts. This conversation helps determine whether my neuro-affirming approach resonates with your values while giving you a sense of my therapeutic style and neurodiversity perspective.
If we decide to work together, you'll receive a comprehensive workbook that explores your relationship strengths and areas where accommodation might be helpful. This preparation ensures that our time together celebrates what's already working well while identifying opportunities for even greater thriving.
Throughout our work together, you'll have access to targeted exercises designed to reinforce and practice new accommodation strategies between sessions. I'm available for brief check-ins when needed, and I offer AI note-taking services for couples who want detailed session summaries to reference as they implement new approaches.
My approach focuses on helping couples appreciate each other's neurotypes while developing practical strategies for creating accommodation where needed. We work toward mutual celebration of brain differences and develop systems that support both partners' authentic ways of being.
Investment in Celebrating Your Unique Love
Neurodivergent relationships bring incredible gifts when partners have the right support and understanding. The beauty of ADHD brains in relationships, the passion, creativity, emotional depth, and authentic connection, deserves to be celebrated and supported rather than pathologized or changed.
High-achieving ADHD couples often bring extraordinary gifts to their relationships and careers, but may not have learned how to create accommodation for their natural neurotype at home. Working with a couples therapist who celebrates neurodivergence provides access to tools and perspectives that honor your authentic selves while building practical skills for thriving together.
The incredible connection and passion that brought you together represents the natural beauty of neurodivergent love. With proper support and accommodation strategies, these strengths can flourish while developing new skills for navigating neurotype differences with grace and understanding.
Begin Celebrating Your Neurodivergent Love Today
If you're a neurodivergent couple ready to celebrate your unique gifts while building even stronger connection, I invite you to reach out for your complimentary consultation. This conversation will help us explore whether my neuro-affirming approach to ADHD couples therapy resonates with your vision for your relationship.
Your relationship deserves support that celebrates who you naturally are rather than trying to change you. You deserve therapy that honors ADHD brains and builds on your natural gifts while creating accommodation where helpful. The journey toward deeper celebration and understanding begins with a single decision to seek support from someone who truly appreciates neurodivergent love.
Contact me today to schedule your consultation and begin your journey toward an even more thriving neurodivergent partnership. Together, we can build on the incredible foundation you already have while developing skills that honor both your neurotypes and support your unique way of loving.